Hip-Hop Idolatry & The Church Pt. 28 ~ R. Kelly, The #MuteRKelly Movement & Expose'

“If I could change anything, I would definitely have had a father around. My father. I would definitely say it affected me deeply as a young man, coming up. Who doesn't want a father? Those are the beginnings, and those are what can dictate the roads you choose in life, and choosing them well. And it affected me.” ~ R Kelly, GQ Magazine 2016 "The Confessions of R Kelly"

FIRST, I would like to say that this article was very difficult for me to accomplish. It took a lot of time and research and delving into the topic was similar to diving into a pool of feces! I don't take this issue to be the least bit humorous, neither do I take the implications and results of any of it lightly. In fact, I don;t know if I would have garnered the inspiration to delve in so deeply if it weren't for R Kelly showing up in the comments section of this blog for some reason. It goes like this:

Some months ago, during the normal course of examining the damage and praying for restoration from the perversions of Larry Nassar, the former MSU and Olympic Team physician who was recently convicted for sexually victimizing over 100 young ladies trusted to his care over a period of nearly 20 years, I was intrigued by the commentary of one R Kelly, who seemed more eager to support Nassar, while condemning the testimony of the women, going so far as to argue that God was responsible for and endorsed rape and pedophilia.

After engaging his comments and twisted anti-God logic for some time in the comments section of  posts both HERE and HERE, I thought, "Is this the "real" R Kelly?"...I thought, "Is this the one who has sang some of the most nasty songs in the universe, been accused of pedophilia and lusting after underage girls for nearly as long as I can remember, been accused of currently maintaining a sex cult run by he and various associates in or at one and possibly both of his Atlanta residents?"... I thought, "Is this the same fella who has stood on stage with Kirk Franklin, professing himself to have been "saved", sometime after allegedly molesting his own goddaughter, on a sleazy , perverted video tape in which he claimed simply, (as he didn't testify, but said publicly) "That ain't me" and was let off the hook by an indecisive jury?"... I mean the list goes on and on regarding this fella and I began to question everything he had argued in light of his alleged history.

>>>>>Disclaimer: To be clear, the artist known as R Kelly has NEVER been convicted of a sex crime by a court or a jury. Although there is proof and plenty of speculation that he has negotiated and settled claims before they were lawsuits  and  privately settled lawsuits before they were made public, and paid off many of his alleged victims, demanding that they sign nondisclosure agreements, NONE of them have ever endured the criminal justice system to a conviction. The information regarding R Kelly and his alleged actions referenced on this blog are from commonly known sources circulating certain information regarding R Kelly's alleged perversions. <<<<<

Well, after inquiry, the person at least "proclaiming" to be Robert Sylvester Kelly, confirmed as much by posting with his alleged "real" google profile and that's when all the "fun" began and I believe the end of an era was marked.

R Kelly, Sexual Abuse, The Church & The Real Story Behind It All

What I find interesting is that Kelly's ramblings on this blog, sought to prove that God was  responsible for evil and most specifically sexual evil. While most people who deny God's existence claim this (go figure? ~ alas arguing the frailty of humanity because if there is no God then something else must be responsible for it), in light of the accusations and alleged lifestyle of  Kelly, I found it somewhat hard to believe that he was being real...I mean, no matter what one thinks of God, he has in no wise endorsed holding women in a house, using them as sex slaves, appointing persons to "monitor" their every move and video tape them and pass the tapes around to other perverted friends for their use and enjoyment...All of these things are alleged, not by church people, but by some of  R Kelly's most close assistants and former assistants. These and more are just some of the things that Kelly is alleged to have done.

Now, Kelly himself claims to be "a God fearing man". In his latest statements on the issue since the heat has been turned up, he says this repeatedly. However, in light of the evidence, I believe it is only fair to ask, which God does he fear? Does he fear the god of this world whom Jesus calls mammon?  Or does he fear the God of the bible?

For over two decades there have been accusations regarding Kelly. From his marriage to the late singer known as Aaliyah when she was 15 and he was 27, to more recent allegations by former sex-slave currently known as Jerhonda Pace who claims that Kelly groomed her since age 14 to not only be sexually intimate with him on demand, but also has a domineering, controlling and even physically threatening personality that he uses to get what he wants. (I will discuss this a little later in the article) 

With that said, there are a number of issues. Some I will raise in this article, that I believe should be examined if we are to make sense of the complete story. I will examine R. Kelly and his story. I will examine the claims of some of the accusers, I will examine the position, silence and even endorsement of this man among some of the of the church leadership and will conclude with my own elucidation on the issues of sexual abuse, misconduct and sexual perversion. 

The Kelly Self Portrait & Expose'

As stated, I must admit that the Kelly story has been one of the more fascinating ones that I have engaged. In him I see a spirit of baalism that has been around for centuries, but that continues to rise in various forms, but appears to be in full bloom within Kelly. 

As I examined the issues further, I came across an article that Kelly had done with GQ Magazine in 2016 entitled "The Confessions of R Kelly" which was probably one of the most enlightening reads full of information on the man himself.

In the article, the writer points out a memoir that R Kelly produced in 2012 called "Soulacoaster, The Diary of Me" in which Kelly revealed that sexual abuse had taken place in his life at an early age.  It seems that in this work, R Kelly was very forthcoming about the sexual abuse and was willing to talk about it in the interview as well. Now, the result of this was that Kelly was taking the place of the victimized while simultaneously saying nothing about those whom he has allegedly or otherwise victimized.

According to outside sources, it seems that Kelly, for whatever reason, gained an affinity compulsion for lust for underaged girls as a sexual target and has an insatiable libido towards them. Here is what a fella named Demetrius Smith claimed as recorded by a website named WhatWeSee.com:

Demetrius Smith, Kelly’s longtime friend and personal assistant, publishes a memoir, The Man Behind the Man, in which he writes that: “Underage girls had proven to be [Kelly’s] weakness. He was obsessed. Sickly addicted.” ~ "If 10% of this is true R Kelly is a Monster. WhatWeSeee.com 10/11/2015

So Kelly's life experience, as recorded by him, displays that he himself was abused at an early age. We will examine that below. In addition, reports are abundant that others, specifically underaged teen girls,  have allegedly been abused by him as well.

Kelly has gone to trial, and was acquitted over the issue. He has also allegedly settled many claims of his sexual inappropriate acts with non-disclosure agreements as we will note, and yet goes on claiming that everyone is lieing on him. Nevertheless, there appears to be a link to early childhood sexual activity, fatherlessness, and Kelly's alleged resultant perversions in many cases that exist and continue to garner the public's attention.

The Kelly Hero

From all accounts, in his Soulacoaster memoir, Kelly is the hero. He is the one who was victimized, but overcame it all to become rich and famous. He was a no reading, hard-knox educated, street performer, rejected by everyone, but who found his niche in the "souls" of those listening to his lyrical content. According to Kelly, he has near visionary experiences in nearly everything including his own fame.

As stated previously, what is somewhat of a twist is that Kelly however, points to an unnamed female, whom he later reveals as a "family member" (during the interview), who abused him sexually from age 8 until about age 15 when he began to date girls outside of the family. What is further interesting is that it seems that Kelly so much as acknowledges that pedophilia effects children negatively and will, in his opinion, create a person who is not only out of control sexually, but who also could perpetuate sexual evil on others.

Here is an excerpt from the interview specifically dealing with the molestation that he faced:

Q: I believe a common reaction in such situations is to be angry about losing an innocence that shouldn't have been lost. Do you relate to that?

“Absolutely, yes. It teaches you to definitely be sexual earlier than you should have, than you're supposed to. You know, no different than putting a loaded gun in a kid's hand—he gonna grow up being a shooter, probably. I think it affects you tremendously when that happens at an early age. To be more hornier. Your hormones are up more than they would normally be. Mine was.”

Q: And do you think that set you on a path that you kept on?

“Yeah. In a lot of ways, absolutely. I think so.”

He then went on to say that sexual abuse is similar to a generational curse, but that he had become free from the effects of such a curse in his life although not venturing into how he may have gained his freedom:

Q: People are going to think: Well, if that passes down, why didn't it pass down to you? 

“Well, you know, just like poverty—poverty was a generational curse in my family, too, but I decided that I'm gonna stop that curse. I'm not gonna be broke, like my mom was broke, my uncles were broke, my sisters didn't have money, my cousins on down. Generational curse doesn't mean that the curse can't be broken. Just like having no father, that's a generational curse. Which is why, when my kids were born, I was Bill Cosby in the house. You know, the good one. You know, let's be clear there: how we saw Bill Cosby when we were coming up.”

Q: So what did you have to do to break a generational curse? To make that not be you? 

“Well, it's really not about breaking it. There's things that you don't want to do that you're not gonna do. It was just as simple as that. I want to be able to be a father to my kids, where I've never seen my father, but my kids can see me whenever they want, so that was broken. [He and his wife Andrea divorced in 2009, and in practice, for reasons he suggests are beyond his control, he rarely sees his three children.] The poverty part was broken. And I feel the child-molestation part, that definitely was broken. But of course you gonna be misunderstood because you R. Kelly, and the success and things get mixed up in the music, and people take the words you sing in your songs and try to pound that on your head and say, ‘Ahh! You did do it—look what you just wrote over here.’ ”

Kelly chalks up the "sexual abuse" and "sexual perversion" vibe that people get from him as a "misunderstanding" when it comes to deciphering or discerning his personality or who he is. At either rate, right on que, you guessed it, nothing is his fault, the blame always falls on others, which appears to be a consistent Kelly theme.

An "Alter Ego" & The Kelly Codes

“R. Kelly is the sweetest person you will ever want to meet,”...
“But Robert is the devil.” Asante McGee
BuzzFeed News 7/17/2017

Briefly, it occurred to me that there could be a split personality or an alter ego at work here. One of the escaped victims of the Kelly web was a lady named Asante McGee. In her statement above she seems to draw a line between R Kelly and "Robert"

Former background singer for Kelly, Lavelle Jones stated the following in a documentary interview about Kelly:

"R Kelly, man, he's conflicted, he's a spiritual man, but at the same time he's perverted...when you talk about the craft and the music he's a genius and somebody that any budding artist would love to be around, on the other hand, you seen some sides that were ugly, y'u-know the problems with the young women and he's very controlling. It's kinda conflicted, it's almost like a Jekyll and Hyde" ~ R Kelly, Sex & Videotapes 4/7/2018 

Could Asante be making a point without saying as much? Could a former music associate who has been with him since the mid and early 90's have witnessed the actions of a person with dual personalities? Could R Kelly be experiencing some sort of weird personality split between a musician and a predator and sexual abuser? Or is the "code" of Kelly right on target to throw individuals off?

For example, one of his accusers said that Kelly once gave her a cocktail that he had made while "in the kitchen". Evidently this drink knocked her out and put her to sleep. Later, he produced a project called "In The Kitchen" which spoke of performing multiple sexual perversions and acts upon a woman while in the kitchen.

There are a lot of codes and hidden messages in Kelly's work. Some of his former associates recognize messages that he sends in texts through various codes and ways of expressions that only they would be familiar with. Only hard and fast adherents to his life's story would understand some of the codes and messages that he sends and delivers.

One such individual is former slave and radio personality and DJ Kitti Jones. Having been infatuated and swept off her feet by Kelly (who has also admitted that he is in love with love itself, meaning that he likes all the things poured into the pursuit of love and the initial feelings of love, as opposed to a committed relationship based on love) Jones, who once thought herself to be THE woman for Kelly, is telling her story of liberation and abuse, claiming that Kelly not only lavished her with his version of love, but also placed restrictions on her, starved her, slapped her, mentally abused and sexually abused and took advantage of her and continues to seek opportunities to mentally manipulate her through various coded messages that she has heard in tweets by the singer and in other venues.  

The McDonald's Code

Such codes are references to McDonalds. Yes, the burger and fast food chain.

Although there is more to the story than I will outline here, it seems that Kelly loved McDonalds from an early age for whatever reason. Current speculation suggests that McDonalds is the place where Kelly meets prospective underaged victims.

For example until in the early 2000's he was sued at least twice by the families of 2 under aged girls claiming that R Kelly began his path of seduction and molestation at McDonalds. From all indication these suits were settled out of court and therefore no charges were ever levied. A specific instance is the case Patrice Jones. Jones was 16 years old when she met Kelly at the "Rock n Roll" McDonalds in Chicago after her HS Prom.

Jones claimed that the singer seduced her, had sex with her multiple times, got her pregnant, coerced her into having an abortion, and allegedly did this knowing that she was underaged. According to reports Jones has had to sue Kelly 3 times over a period of years for breaking promises and continued aggression. Of course her initial claim, and seemingly all others were settled out of court for an undisclosed amount of money with a non-disclosure agreement arranged or approved through the Loggans Law Firm of Chicago, who allegedly had been dealing with settling claims, and extracting money from Kelly on behalf of victims since 1997.

Others claim that Kelly would go to the McDonalds and bring young girls back to the studio who would end up in sexually compromising situations if not flat out sex. A production engineer claims that Kelly, at one point, picked up some girls from McDonalds, brought them back to his home studio, made them strip down to their underwear and stand bent over the console for his "inspiration" on a certain song that dealt with feeling on a woman's booty. The engineer never witnessed Kelly touch either female however. 

The Harem & Harem Keepers

What I found to be most fascinating, were the number of people who were willing participants in keeping the Kelly perversions in check and even training others on how to embrace his perversions which seemed to include digital anal penetration, oral sex and masturbation.  

The graphic shows those who have allegedly been complicit for various aspects of the Kelly sexual victimization. 

In addition, Kelly's legal team simply had been advising him to shut up and let them do the job he hired them to do. That's not bad advice from a lawyer, especially if it was a lawyer currently on the legal team. However, from all reports Kelly's lawyer, like many of the other associates above, recently quit. In addition, I am not sure if a lawyer is supposed to be or is commissioned to be party to potential criminal activity... Nevertheless, recently Kelly said this to the media regarding the resurfacing accusations and media buzz against him:

"My team has advised me that this is not a proper platform to express my emotions. I will not discuss details about these false allegations that have been made against me. I will say that I am infuriated, and I am heartbroken by the false claims against me. These accusations being perpetuated by the media is an attempt to distort my character and to destroy my legacy that I have worked so hard to build. These allegations have created a character of me that is not the truth of who I am nor what I am about. The women in my life are consenting adults and they [sic] with me on their free will. I am a God-fearing man, a son, a brother, and most importantly a father. The media has dissected and manipulated these false allegations to reach their own conclusions about me and what I do in my personal life. My focus has always been music and being in the music industry. At this time, my faith and my love for music are the only things that has not been affected. The devil is a liar. To whom much is given, from him much expected. To my fans, I love you all from the deepest part of me. I am nothing without you, my fans. Thank you very much for all your support. I am a God-fearing man and through God’s grace and mercy, I will survive."

While Kelly may be "God fearing" he made no impression that he knew or knows God in any way with his commentary on this blog. In fact, IF the commentary was from Robert Sylvester Kelly as I asked the writer to confirm, he doesn't believe in any god but himself. If it is that he is "afraid" of himself, believe me, we are too!!!!

The Nondisclosure Agreement

Jerhonda Pace was a young lady age 15 when she met R Kelly even advocating for him during his 2008 trial. According to her she began to have sex with Kelly at approximately age 16 in 2009 sometime after he was acquitted. Similar to Kitti Jones, Jerhonda was pursued hotly by Kelly, sexually and physically abused, mentally manipulated, and in every manner demeaned. Similar to Kitti, she was forced to "please daddy", videotaped during sexual activity, forced to engage in lesbian sexual activity and "menage a trois" or group sex activities, kept away from her family, starved, restricted on who she could contact and when, and manipulated into believing that she was going to be THE special lady in Kelly's life.

After her escape, Kelly eventually delivered an agreement to her demanding her allegiance through terms of a non-disclosure agreement. In essence it was a hush settlement for approximately $5,000 per month. All was well until time began to deal with Jerhonda's thoughts and memories, and Kelly began to miss payments under the agreement.

In short, Jerhonda felt at that point that telling her story and liberating other women from Kelly's bondage was more important than holding to the terms of a hush agreement.    

The #MeToo Movement  #MuteRKelly Movement

The #MeToo Movement has empowered women and men who suffered  sexual abuse to stand and tell their stories and seek justice through the criminal justice system. Of course Kelly has his own views of the effectiveness of the movement but has released a statement encouraging the work of the movement bu claiming it to be misdirected when it comes to him. 

Still, Kelly reveals what he really thinks about such movement elsewhere. For example Kelly has a certain view as it pertains to the complete scathing of Dr. Bill Cosby in the media as a result of the media attention and pressure of the MeToo Movement. While the motivation behind the movement to "get Bill" may be questionable, Kelly, as he has done on this blog, goes even further in claiming that the women lack credibility in accusing a man of sexual abuse, at least in his mind. Kelly, in his own words, delivers something quite special as it pertains to the accusations of sexual abuse against Cosby. He says this:

“Well, my opinion on that is, I don't know what happened. I'm a fan of Bill Cosby's from the Bill Cosby show, of course—who's not?—and for me to give my opinion on something that I have no idea if it's true or not, all I can say is that it was a long time ago. And when I look on TV and I see the 70-, 80-, 90-year-old ladies talking about what happened when they were 17, 18, or 19, there's something strange about it. That's my opinion. It's just strange.”

Now, I don't know if the disparity is as great as he says it is, but he makes the point that he simply just does not believe the accusers because they accuse. I would say that's fair, but Kelly doesn't stop there. I believe he reveals something a little more strange in the next statement. He goes on to say:

“If God showed me that they were telling the truth, I would say that's wrong. I don't care if it was a zillion years ago. But God would have to do that, because God is the only one can show me that. No man can tell me that. No woman can tell me that. And when you wait 70 years, 50 years, 40 years, to say something that simple, it's strange. You know why I say that is because it happened to me, and it wasn't true.”

Kelly says in order to believe the accusations, he would need a direct revelation from God that the accusers were telling the truth. No matter the evidence or the testimony, Kelly would disregard that and appeal directly to God. Is Kelly questioning the authenticity of a woman's accusation or complaint as it pertains to sexual abuse? Is there a special disregard for such claims because they are women? I don't know, but if he hated that he certainly hates what else has arisen in the meantime.

While, the #MeToo Movement has and is making waves, there is another online movement launched and  directed at Kelly himself. It is called the #MuteRKelly Movement.

Started by Kenyette Barnes, [who has declared that the movement will continue "until R Kelly's career is over"] and Oronike Odeleye, the movement was initially designed to shut down R Kelly concerts by discouraging ticket sales and headlining events. The theme of the movement is to draw attention and a direct response towards the alleged past and current abuses of Kelly,.demanding that the singer deal with the accusations and substance of his sexual abuse. Of course the method is to put a squeeze on the money and cut off sources of revenue so that Kelly will have to deal with the real issues.

Is that what should be done? Although there doesn't appear to be anything redemptive in that process as I will discuss, not having money to pay claims would force issues to be handled a different way. On the other hand, it could cause all accusers to go away if their claim is unauthentic and if they only wanted cash to begin with. We can wait and see just how effective this strategy may be but I would certainly agree that doing something to stop illegal and illicit activity obviously perpetuated by Kelly is a good thing. 

The Gospel & Church Connection

Kelly has spread his musical "talents" all across the music industry. The so called Gospel Music Industry has been and is a ripe field of activity for secular singers. From the recent acceptance of Calvin Cordozar Broadus Jr. aka: Snoop Lion as another of its action gospel music heroes, it seems that sentiments along the lines that secular artists are welcome icons of the singing Gospel, are not soon to pass or go away.

Looking back, it was R Kelly that produced a host of songs sang by gospel and secular artists alike that the church embraced and even fully adopted. Nearly everyone remembers "Look to you" sang by the late Whitney Houston, which was an anthem some say dedicated to the Lord. Then there was the inspirational "I believe I can fly" a song that gained popularity from a children's movie called "Space Jam", also hailed as a gospel anthem at one point. Then there was Kirk Franklin's "Lean On Me" which was presented during a time when R. Kelly was actually on stage "pretending" to be repentant.

The presentation of Kelly to the Gospel audience took place right on top of his alleged sexual abuse and seduction of underaged and teenaged girls.

Men Under The Influence: The "Gospel" Musician

"No man can serve two masters"
Mt. 6:24(a)

Not, only was and is R Kelly alleged to be a pervert, but he was also accused of beating up the former fellow Chicago native and secular/gospel musician, Rodney East, some years ago. (although Rodney denies it). The interesting thing about this is that East, who seems to be a very humble man, is supposedly Yolanda Adams primary musician or music director, who has also arranged music for a host of mainline gospel artists such as Marvin Sapp, Smokie Norful, Marvin Winans, CeCe Winans, Deitrick Haddon, and others.

However, at the same time East has helped, and from what I understand continues to help, R Kelly over the years by producing and arranging most of the nasty and perverted musical projects that have made him famous and given him the ability to remain center stage.  

Some projects that East has worked on include songs such as  the 2007 release "Double Up" which was a song done by Kelly and  new gospel sensation, Calvin Cordozar Broadus Jr. (aka: Snoop Lion) which was exclusively about a "menage a trois" and even "menage a quarte" sexual activity. Then there was a song called "Ignition" on Kelly's 2003 Chocolate Factory project, which is said to have been one of his most extremely perverted songs that he has ever made. Incredibly, that song has been claimed as a song that bridged his success from a 90's generation to a current and more modern music generation. 

A listing of East's credits can be found HERE.

What makes this worse is that nearly all of these so called "songs" were allegedly written at the height of the claim of sexual abuse against Kelly. What seems to have been a boon for East's wallet during the time and over the years, has been a near disaster or destruction of East's personal character, morality and integrity and nearly the complete destruction of his family through claims of adultery and sexual infidelity (or at least so is said)....It is a wonder how Kelly hooked up with East as East certainly does not appear to have the same demeanor or character as Kelly, unless it is that Kelly's "alter ego" is much more humble and docile than his personal character appears to be. Further information on East and the Kelly Beat Down Denial can be found HERE.

The Church's Desire For Relevance, But Failure To Redeem

The sad part is that NONE of those artists, be it for contract reasons or otherwise, caused Kelly to change one thing. Marvin Sapp recently had the audacity to speak as a guest on the Tom Joyner Morning Show,  that everyone deserves a chance at redemption. Although I and we certainly agree, headlining on a CD has NO REDEMPTIVE VALUE! Further, where is the effort of Sapp or any of these other "stars" in an attempt to redeem Kelly? 

As we've stated, it was the so called Gospel centered people that actually helped Kelly expand his perversions and enter into venues full of unsuspecting church people. His songs were and some still are sang on Sunday mornings all over the country. These same entertainers, some even claiming to be Bishops and Pastors are themselves GUILTY for perpetuating the sins of this man...NO...one cannot separate their singing from their lifestyle in this venue. 

Get this, it was the church, who already deals with its fair share of people abused within the church, introducing an abuser and alleged sexual pervert to a greater and larger audience and and very much less sophisticated audience when it comes to issues such as this.

Now, I hate to sound demeaning, but the facts are the facts, the church is afraid to deal with it's own brand of sexual abuse and fallout as I have witnessed and experienced over the last 10 years since we have been doing victims advocacy through I Am My Brother's Keeper Christian Advocacy Council.

While most churches have no reporting or security mechanisms to guard against sexual abuse, most also have NO reporting mechanism or security of members through a Safe Church Certification that is offered by IMBKCAC. So, in my opinion, introducing Kelly and other secular artists that have made their living off of sexual perversion and are still yet committed to such is like pouring gasoline  on an open fire and certainly no less than pouring salt into an open wound.

So it makes me wonder, is this further evidence that the church singers and music community, as well as the pastoral leaders that have allowed this within the confines of their buildings, lost their way? Why is it that we are no more salt and light, but seemingly no more than dirt mingled with mud?

Final Thoughts: 

Without a doubt, we (as in the church) can do better, but I am very confident that WE WON'T! Too many conformists and too many weak leaders! Too many that fear their own shadows. 

IS the movement to expose Kelly a good thing? I would say that holding people accountable for their evil deeds, when they are committed to their evil deeds, is always a good thing, however, I would be cautious of the aim. If the aim of any movement is to simply bankrupt a person, that is more akin to bullying than anything else. If the aim of the movement is to create restoration and a restorative environment, I believe that is a much better and more well centered aim or goal and one that should be ascribed to. 

As I view it, R Kelly's money and wealth could better be used to fund restorative programs for sexual abuse victims and those who have been laid waste in the wake of these deadly acts, actions and activities.

In addition, it is evident that Kelly himself needs to be restored. He must undergo change in mind, conduct and sexual disposition. What he really needs is salvation because if even a portion of these things are true, he is not saved and is on an express trip to a certain and real hell. Can he be restored without him going bankrupt? Possibly, but we know that when the money get's funny, he wikll probably do anything and everything he can do to preserve it. 

Our Sons & Daughters

What's more to me is that our daughters don't have a sense of identity. Some appear to be in grown women bodies, but evidently Kelly has found that too many of them have little girl, and even immature minds. One cannot convince me that a properly centered boy or girl could be so easily influenced by any personality to simply hop in a car and take off one's clothes under "normal" emotional and psychological functioning and reasoning.

While I must be careful here, as I certainly do not seek to blame the victim for their victimization, it must be said that our children and youth are growing up basing their identity on secularism and popularity and concepts of social acceptance rather than on firm moral principles and spiritual principles and values. This is a problem. Our young ladies should know their value prior to meeting a low life pimp who lies to them to simply use them for sex. 

R Kellys would not exist if there were no people clamoring around him as if they are looking for something to fall off of a tree. As Kelly stated in a video interview, when the people start calling for a change, then he will change, until then, as long as venues are packed with people singing his praises, feeling on him, and otherwise seeking what they can receive from him, there is no need or incentive to change.

So we must do a much better job preparing and giving our young women a sense of purpose and identity and pointing them to the fact that GOD has created EVERY INDIVIDUAL with purpose, and that purpose is not, was not, and never will be, to be a sex slave, or sexually submissive thrill for a wealthy person singer, entertainer or otherwise. We must teach that integrity should never be compromised for money or popularity, that there are morals and values worth fighting for and taking a stand for.

In addition, we must do a much better job teaching our young men to value women and in particularly the women that God has given them through relationship and marriage. God has joined men and women together by his divine purpose. The only thing that was not good by itself out of all of God's creation was for man to be alone. Therefore the woman was created as a HELP that was MEET for HIM!!!

The woman was not a sexual object and was not meant to be dissected in lust for her body parts. She was to be honored and most importantly THEY were to seek God in and for all things. This generation of men have been led by lustful and self interested leaders both in and out of the church into a chasm of lust and degradation. We must replace this new self contrived sense of moral values and codes with substantive, biblically centered values and moral teachings, and teach these young men how to honor and value instead of how to lust and express their perversion. 

Kelly has done deeds to destroy his own family and that is utterly sad. He is destroying his children with and through all of this. Just as faithlessness effected Kelly, as no father was there to make sure that he completed his education, that same faithlessness will and has also effected his children. One cannot engage in the type of activities that Kelly has allegedly engaged in and fully meet the responsibilities of being a good father.

In all, this lets me know that his daughter and his sons will need to be healed as well and more than likely have already formulated opinions on all of these issues. I believe that the church community, rather than worrying about a hit song, is better served to pray for these kids that God would save and use them for HIS glory and help them know that their life is purposeful as well.

Finally, we must teach again what it means to be virtuous. Some laugh and say "virginity" is not even in the English language anymore, and to them I say SHAME ON YOU!!! Teach the value of virginity until marriage. I have and my household has been blessed because of it. This year I will have raised to adults and neither of them have children or have had non-marital sexual relationships. What I know is that there is a value and blessing on following the path that God has laid out for us to follow. I am a witness, when that plan and path is violated, there is and will be a problem. Some problems cost your life and some problems take you over bridges that one may never be able to cross again.

In this fast time, it is interesting that the timeless values of chastity and realization of the sanctity of  life and living are the most firm and steadfast values that can be found. It is upon that stone which stands upon the mountain of the truth of Jesus that we build. 

Blessed!

Additional Sources & Documentary Video:

Buzzfeed News: The Story Of Jerhonda Pace

                            "Inside The Pied Piper Of R&B's Cult"

MassAppeal.com: "R Kelly Sued By Cop"

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